Tribute to Mother........ My Mother had the challenging task of being a caregiver. She has taken care of my Daddy who just passed away. She watched the deterioration that accompanies Alzheimer's on a daily basis. She and Daddy became inseparable as he became more and more dependent on her to hold on to his memory and his ability to do day to day activities. He would ask her if he looked good as he put on the clothes that she picked out for him the night before. He took joy from being dressed in the "pretty" things that she provided for him. He would wake up and ask, "what are we going to do today?" As long as he was able, he would help her drive verbally telling her where he saw a park or if the way was clear. But he could not remember how to get to wherever they were going.
He held his own for about three years. Then suddenly,
he declined into that other world of Alzheimer's. He kept her up night
and day. She tried to be as patient as possible with him. She stood her
ground that she would not put him in a nursing home if there was a way
around it. She was loyal to those vows, "in sickness and in health".
Then he declined so rapidly that he was hospitalized. She stayed day and
night by his side except when someone else could give her a break.
I arrived on a Saturday evening. In a moment of rare clarity, he
recognized me. I stayed overnight with Daddy to give Mother a break.
When she told him goodnight, he made a kissing motion with his lips and
reached for her. She leaned down to hug him and kiss him and told him
over and over that she loved him. By Monday night, he breathed his last
breath upon this earth. She had stood by him. Even though her health was
compromised, she was there for Daddy. She was truly in every possible
meaning of the word a caregiver! She was a trooper! She showed us all
So Happy Mother's Day does not seem enough! Mother, I
am proud of you and I love you! So even though it seems inadequate, I
wish you a very Blessed and Happy Mother's Day!